Reality TV stars Amanda Batula and Kyle Cooke have opened up about the startling lack of physical intimacy that plagued their four-year marriage, revealing during the "In the City" reunion that they had sex only three times after tying the knot. The candid confession has shed new light on the couple's struggles, with Batula citing depression, a lack of emotional connection, and feeling like an "object" as key factors that ultimately led to their separation in January 2026 .

The Bombshell Confession: 'We Went Into a Funk'

The revelation came during the emotional two-part reunion for Bravo's "In the City," where the exes clarified previous claims they had made during the "Summer House" Season 10 reunion. While they had initially stated they never had sex during their marriage, Cooke clarified that they had sex just three times after their September 2021 wedding . Cooke admitted they "went into a funk immediately after our wedding" and that he "tried for years" to get them into couples therapy, but they remained stuck in a cycle of emotional distance and unmet needs .

The Root Causes: Depression, Emotional Distance, and 'No Foreplay'

Batula, now 34, candidly attributed "part of it" to her ongoing struggles with depression: "Depression will do that. That was part of it" . She explained that the issues in the bedroom began well before their wedding, as they had already discussed the lack of connection in therapy while engaged .

The core of the problem, Batula explained, was the absence of emotional intimacy and romance. "I wasn't being courted. There were no dates," she said during the reunion . She painted a stark picture of their routine: "He would work all day, work all night, then come to bed, tell me to answer an email, and then try to have sex with me. It felt like there was no foreplay. There was no emotional intimacy. There was no conversation. There was nothing else happening in the relationship" .

This dynamic left her feeling used. "I felt like I was just an object at that point," she confessed. "Then the depression hit also, and then it was just an unfortunate storm" .

Clashing Perspectives: 'Workaholic' vs. 'Provider'

Cooke, 43, who was building his beverage company Loverboy during this period, offered a different perspective. He argued that he was "putting in the hours then so we could provide for our family later," and claimed he arranged every date, trip, and vacation they had ever taken . He also mentioned that he had suggested Batula read a book on how to date an entrepreneur, which he thought would help her understand his work ethic .

Batula pushed back, emphasizing that her point was that she was "put on the back burner." She explained, "It did take a toll on our romantic and intimate relationship because your priority was work. Your solution was for me to read a book on how to date an entrepreneur, and I wanted you to take me on a date" .

Cooke admitted he bore some responsibility for the marriage's breakdown. When host Andy Cohen asked if he would take any blame, Cooke said, "Of course," and acknowledged that their "very unhappy marriage" was due to "no needs [being] met" .

The Final Straw: A 'Fresh Start' on New Year's Day

Batula revealed during the "Summer House" reunion that the "nail in the coffin" for their marriage was New Year's Day 2026. She explained that she had spent the night alone while Cooke was out DJing, and she woke up to find he had spent the night at a hotel in Hoboken . Determined to start the new year with a "fresh start" and realizing Cooke was "doing the same sh*t that he was doing that was pissing me off before," she contacted Bravo PR immediately after the holiday to issue a statement announcing their separation .

Moving On and Lingering Tensions

Following the split, Batula moved on with their "Summer House" co-star West Wilson, a relationship that caused significant tension within their friend group, particularly with Batula's former close friend Ciara Miller, who had also dated Wilson . Despite the messy breakup, Batula acknowledged that Cooke "has been the best" in supporting her amidst the public backlash to her new relationship . Cooke has also expressed that he still has "so much love" for Batula and continues to pay for her health insurance as their divorce proceedings remain ongoing .